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What the hell is going on? I'm so confused by his behavior

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I found out I was pregnant about two weeks ago and I immediately told the guy I had been seeing. It was a shock because I was on birth control and he pulled out. He was immediately supportive and insisted on us seeing one another every day for the next 6 days while we wait for my medication abortion appointment.

After work, every day, he would come and pick me up from campus (where I live) and we would catch a bite to eat but he would insist on sitting in his car the whole time. It felt like he didn't want to be seen with me anymore, it was strange and it hurt. He also began to (I suspect) purposefully act quite distant and cold towards me. He showed absolutely no physical warmth, would cut me off when I'm talking and didn't even look at me while we spoke. He would also constantly shut me down if I tried to apologize or suggest something.

Still, he insisted on seeing me every day and said that it would help the both of us because "We're in this together". He would text me throughout the day, saying sweet things like "I just want to hold you in my arms right now", "I want to remain in your life and we can grow together" and "don't count us out in having a future together"... but then he would show up for our daily meeting and his demeanor would say the complete opposite.

Two nights ago, he suddenly asked me for proof that I am pregnant (I have not allowed him to come for any appointments with me - just not comfortable with it). It hurt that he suddenly was doubting me so I broke down in the car. He immediately suggested he bring me back home and I agreed. I offered to show him the pregnancy test but he refused to see it, I insisted on showing him the bookings for all the appointments I went for, showed him the charges on my account from planned parenthood, and even guaranteed him a note from the doctor after my final check up on Monday.

Am I wrong to feel upset and think he's being an asshole and truly trying to push me away or take advantage of my current emotional vulnerability? What the hell is going on? I'm so confused by his behavior.