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I'm comfortable with my masculinity and my place in life

Sugar mummy with boyfriend

My girlfriend is definitely the breadwinner in our relationship. Not that I don't work, but I'm going to school on top of a part-time job. Even after I graduate though, I'll still end up making less than her. I take care of our house, I clean, I do laundry, I cook. I'll even pour some wine for her if she's had a long day.

I seem to get patronizing comments about it all the time. Not just every once in a while. I'm talking, every week someone brings it up. I get the "guess she wears the pants" jokes, I get happy ending jokes, I get jokes about her being a sugar momma, I get jokes about my apparent lack of masculinity, and a lot more. I think the worst though is the people that seem to think that all of that is an acceptable reason to try to walk all over me.

Truth is though, I absolutely love every bit of it. I fucking love cooking something that she enjoys. I love being able to keep the house clean so she doesn't have to stress. She's scatterbrained as hell. "Hun, where are my work shirts?" "Oh, I just did the laundry the other day, they should be folded in your dresser" I love being able to be there when she gets home so I can make sure she's okay after her day. I love giving her foot rubs after a bad day, while she drinks a glass of wine and rants to me. I love that she doesn't see it as something that lessens me as a man or a person. Most of all, I love that she doesn't take any of that for granted.

I'm comfortable with my masculinity and my place in life. What I'm not comfortable with, is being treated like less of a man because I'm doing stereotypical female things with my life. I love what I do, and what I'll hopefully be doing for the rest of my life. I don't need any input on it. I'm right where I want to be, assholes.